It is quiet a chicken and egg situation when I ask which comes first in human relationships, trust or love? Both are intangible, but which one fares higher in close-knit relationships? The building blocks of relationships are based on love, loyalty, honesty, comfort, emotional intelligence, communication and trust. In my opinion the foundation is trust, a strong thick base that eventually enables the rest of the building blocks to fit in cohesively.
The closeness, attachment, and fondness, develops rather quickly, for us to comfortably say ‘I love you’ to another person. More often than not, love doesn’t require us to break our walls down, to let anyone invade our thoughts, hearts and closets. Love, can also be one-sided – meaning we can be immensely fond of another person without expecting it back.
However, it can take a long time for us to say and feel ‘I trust you’. Trust develops over a long time – the comfort line is two-way and takes an eternally long route to get strong and puts equal responsibility on both the players. Consciously barriers break down, soul sharing begins and closets become wider. As a result vulnerability increases manifold when you put your trust in someone, not when you simply love someone.
We can perhaps love with the mind but trust only comes consciously from the heart. Trust is that strong assumption that the other person only has positive intentions for us and will protect our feelings as their own. Love, loves to play hide and seek – however, if the underlying base is trust then you are bound to seek it back with ease. Sadly, love and respect might crumble as soon as trust is broken.
Or maybe they are as intertwined as the two main ingredients in the following dish, Eggs in Tomatoes. A thick tomato base cooked to perfection, with eggs thrown in the heart of the pan. Cooked slowly until the sunny side just about sets, strongly encased by sweet, cumined tomato sauce…bubbling together, crumbling with happiness, bright red and shining yellow – this is best eaten straight from the pan.